Anxiety, Anxiety, you give me no mercy

Well would you look at that-I have a phobia! Telephonophobia! I am reluctant and, at times, afraid to have a conversation on the telephone. I’m not usually someone who supports self-diagnosis (I am still not a doctor) but in this case it’s pretty obvious.
And it makes sense. It’s the last vestigial element of my general social anxiety that took me years of effort and determination to cope with and master for he most part. I don’t avoid large social gatherings, in fact I kind of like them now. I am very comfortable speaking in front of a crowd, because I love the sound of my own voice and my own opinions. It’s the Me Show, starring Me!

So what if  I have one more tiny social demon clinging to my heartstrings and whispering its fearful words into my ear. It’s actually a relief being able to isolate the stress into a single source, instead of worrying that I was just a big pile of awkward failing. Some people hate spiders, I hate telephones. I’ll beat it, eventually, but until I do I have to remember to draw upon the support and help of my loved ones (Hi Honey! I love you very much).

More Music Nonsense: Triumph just wasn’t a very spectacular band. They tried hard, sure, and I can believe that some people have been “rocked” by Triumph, but listening to any of their songs other than their few hits will leave most people underwhelmed. Adequate, but not inspiring.
Also, I have a surprising fondness for hardcore Techno, I think. It’s hard to tell what to call it, since even the aficionados of electronic music can’t agree on any kind of labelling system. Maybe I like breakbeat, or maybe its grime. Whatever it is actually called, I like percussion heavy songs with computer noisy noises. I put on the eclectic electronic music channel while I was cleaning the kitchen, and it was dad’s one man cleanup rave (glow sticks and hallucinogens not included).

I thought I was going to have a clever title

But it turns out, the song that I thought I was going to borrow the title of, sending the readers on a small scavenger hunt to discover an obscure but enjoyable song, doesn’t actually exist. Instead I will be blunt-go listen to some Morrissey. With the Smiths, or solo, you choice. I’m surprised how much he means to me. Here, try this on : Greatest Hits (Dlx Ltd Ed)

Back to my original subject. I am experiencing a significant amount of  stress from trying to achieve both a career launch and being a full-time caregiver. I admire the men and women out there who appear to be able to accomplish both tasks, but beating myself up won’t make it happen. If beating myself up and wallowing in self-pity were success catalysts, then high school would have left me sitting on a giant pile of money watching over my vast empire. Time to be honest with myself and acknowledge that I am  choosing to focus on caring for Max, and that is my career right now. If I can muster up a little extra from day-to-day, then that’s fantastic, but the quality of our time together is my only real baseline for measuring success.

But what about money, and my fondness for the comforts it brings? Well, we know we can make do with only one salary, and if I have to sacrifice a few luxuries to make it through, then that’s what I’ll do. I need to look at it as a contract position, that will last until Max heads off to school, which will be September 2012. There’s always a chance that something will change, and we’ll look at pre-school, but let’s take that one step at a time.

Unrelated: Futon mattresses are currently on the top of my “You can go straight to hell” list. Moving one is like trying to wrestle a drunk manatee up a set of stairs.

This is a mess of unrelated things

Which, I assume, my last post was as well. the unfortunate outcome of blogging while tired on a malfunctioning keyboard. You don’t know how essential your friend the space bar is until he stops working. Oh well, I’m back on my normal keyboard and (relatively) awake.

It makes me laugh my angry and dismissive laugh when I see the repeated references to Apple, and specifically the iPhone, as “overhyped”. Really? How many millions and millions of phones do they have to sell before the hype level is scientifically determined to be the correct amount? What is the adequate hype threshold for a consumer electronic product? If you need a good example of this kind of nonsense, check out Gizmodo and the majority of their sad iPhone coverage.

At the heart of it, people want to see something rise up and be great, and then they hate it for becoming great and they yearn for its destruction. They’ve found one minor issue with some of the phones, and they want to ride it to the angry mob with pitchforks and effigies of Steve Jobs. Microsoft has seen the opportunity in scoring a few cheap points and they referred to the  iPhone 4 as Apple’s Vista.  If the people amused by that comparison could logically compare the two things, they’d remember what an unholy mess of unwanted and unuseful garbage Vista is.

In other news, I’ve added another band to my no listen list. Sorry Doug and the Slugs, but you were terrible examples of Can Con gone wrong, and the world is better without your “Last of the Red Hot Fools” or “Makin’ it Work”. especially the second one-I hear that noise on the radio and I change it to the next available station. I don’t care if it’s static or a sermon about the jesus, it’s got to be better than those damn slugs.